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The Pain of Losing Your Equine Companion: Reflections of a Horseless Equestrian

Reflections of a Horseless Equestrian for the First Time in 20 Years

For 20 years, horses have been an integral part of my life. From the early morning feedings to the late-night rides, my identity has been inextricably tied to my equine companions. But now, for the first time in two decades, I'm finding myself without a horse. The feeling of being horseless is like losing a part of myself, and it's difficult to imagine my life without a horse in it.

As horse enthusiasts, our love for these majestic creatures is a significant part of our lives. However, life circumstances may sometimes result in not having a horse to care for or ride. While it can be challenging, and let's face it, a little emotional, to let go of the familiar routine and the companionship of our horses, it is also an opportunity to explore new adventures and interests. In this blog post, we'll explore all the aspects of being horseless and offer tips on how to make the most of this time until you can re-enter the horse ownership arena.

Today's youth in the stock horse industry.

The Bond Between Horse & Rider:

The bond between a horse and rider is a unique and special one that can be difficult to put into words. For many equestrians, their horses become more than just pets or animals they ride - they become a beloved companion and friend. The connection that develops between horse and rider can be incredibly strong, and the trust and understanding that develops can be a source of comfort and joy.

When you lose your horse, that bond is suddenly severed, and it can feel like a part of you is missing. The memories of the time you spent together - the quiet moments of grooming, the exhilaration of a good ride, the feeling of safety and trust that comes with being around your horse - are all the more precious because they are no longer a part of your daily life. You may feel a sense of longing and sadness when you think about your horse, but at the same time, you may also feel gratitude for the time you had together.

The Loss of Identity:

For many equestrians, being a horse person is not just a hobby, but a central part of their identity. When you lose your horse, you may feel like a part of your identity has been taken away. You may find that you don't know who you are without your horse, and that your life lacks direction and purpose.

It can be difficult to know how to move forward when you feel like such an integral part of yourself is gone. You may need to take some time to process your feelings before you can begin to figure out who you are without your horse. It's important to remember that you are still the same person you were before - you just have to find new ways to express your love for horses and equestrianism.

The Memories That Remain:

When you become horseless, the memories of the time you spent with your horse can be a source of comfort and solace. The memories of early morning feedings, the cherished wins, and quiet moments of connection are all the more precious because you know you won't be able replace those special moments with another horse.

However, those memories can also be painful, as they remind you of what you have lost. You may find yourself feeling overwhelmed with emotion when you think about your horse, and that's okay.

The Hope for the Future:

Although becoming horseless is incredibly difficult, it's important to remember that there is always hope for the future. Perhaps you will find a new horse to love and care for, or maybe you will find new ways to explore your passion for equestrianism. Whatever the future holds, know that your love for horses will endure.

It can be hard to imagine a future without your beloved horse, but it's important to remember that there are still opportunities for growth and change. You may find that exploring new avenues in the equestrian world helps you to connect with your passion in new ways. Or, you may find that taking a break from horses for a little while helps you to recharge and come back to the sport with renewed energy and enthusiasm.

No matter what the future holds, it's important to stay open to new experiences and to keep your love for horses alive in your heart.


Losing your horse is never easy, and being a horseless equestrian is a unique kind of pain. But even though your equine companion is missing from this equation, the memories and the love you shared will always remain. Whether you find a new horse or explore new avenues in the equestrian world, remember that being an equestrian is more than just having a horse; it's a way of life.

Community feel at a horse show.

Here are a few tips for being horseless in an equestrian world:

New Adventures Await

Being horseless can open up doors to new experiences and adventures. Perhaps there are places you have always wanted to visit but never had the time or opportunity to go while caring for your horse. Or maybe you have always been interested in another sport or hobby but didn't have the energy or motivation to pursue it while balancing your equine responsibilities. Take this time to explore new passions and interests, and see what new adventures await!

New Connections to Be Made

Staying connected to the horse community, even without owning a horse, is vital for many horse enthusiasts. But being horseless also allows for the opportunity to expand our horizons and make new connections outside the equine world. Consider joining a community or group related to an interest or hobby you have always wanted to try. You might find a new network of friends and connections you never knew existed!

More Time to Focus On Self-Care

Being horseless also means having more time and energy to focus on self-care. Perhaps you have neglected your own needs while putting your horse first. Take this time to re-establish healthy habits and routines, such as regular exercise, a healthy diet, and getting enough sleep. Remember, taking care of yourself is just as important as taking care of your horse!

Embrace New Perspectives

Being horseless can be a significant change in our lives, but it also offers the opportunity to cultivate new perspectives and ways of thinking. Without the daily demands of horse ownership, you might find more time to reflect on what matters most to you, what brings you joy, and what you value most in life. Use this time to explore your passions, set new goals, and focus on your personal growth.

Liz Moorman and her horse, Too Hot To Escape

The memories of my horse are both a comfort and a source of pain - I will treasure them dearly, but they will remind me of what I've lost. It's a strange feeling, to hold both joy and sorrow in your heart at the same time.

But even as I feel my way through this new opportunity, I know that there is still hope for the future and that I will continue to love and appreciate horses in all their forms. My passion for equestrianism will endure, even as I navigate this new chapter of my life.

So I will take a deep breath, hold my head up high, and keep moving forward, one step at a time. Because even though I may be horseless now, the love and connection I shared with my horse will stay with me always.

In conclusion, being horseless can be a positive and uplifting experience that allows us to explore new adventures, make new connections, focus on self-care, and embrace new perspectives. While it can be challenging to let go of our beloved equine friends, it is also an opportunity to take care of ourselves, try new things, and embrace the joy of discovery. So, go out and enjoy the ride of being horseless! And always remember that they will find their way back to you when the time is right, or so I am telling myself - it's not goodbye, it's just see you later.



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